The dictums of society force us to take specific roles, to assume a persona. Every time you meet someone they want to create an image of you, they want to pin you down and put you in a box. This way it is easier to deal with you. If you meet someone for the first time, they ask you about work, your education, maybe even your political or religious views. In some case, they are trying to find in you something they can relate to. But in many cases, these questions imply that they are looking for how to position you in relation to them; are you “better” than them and they should treat you with respect, or “worse” than them and you should be treated with aloofness? Even those who already know you need to renew your image in their minds by asking you every time they see you “what’s up with you?”
Try to answer any of these social interactions with “I don’t know who I am, I am still trying to figure that out”, and watch the dismissive look, the shrug and the person moving away from you. Or try, as I did, asking someone you are meeting for the first time about their dreams, instead of their jobs. I got a shocked look and “are you into that astrological shit?” Damn yeah, I am ;).
So the first step to find your true identity is to stop trying to be someone else. Stop trying to hide behind job title, social status, education, money or power. If you act in any social situation in any particular manner, ask yourself whether you are going this to enforce a certain social image or you are doing it because this is who you are. Gradually, you will uncover the beautiful gem that is YOU.
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The image is a courtesy of "Daily Drop Cap by Jessica Hische"